How Expectations Play A Role in Parenting
Every single one of us here today is familiar with the concept of family. Every single one of us has been a parent’s child at some point in our lives. Some of us are parents with children of our own. We are all aware of expectations as human beings. Expectations are placed on us to succeed in life, and at work, we are expected to deliver, be effective, and not fail. Parents are expected to balance their personal and professional life, consume good foods, cook healthy meals for their children every day, participate in sports, read books every night, and excel at work. Today, you expect us to surprise you, to reveal something new, or to divulge a parenting secret you didn’t know about.
Expectations are something we all have in parenting.
Thoughts, hopes, responsibilities, and obligations abound in our world. What do we do when it’s like a raindrop getting bigger and bigger before it falls? We unconsciously pass on to our children all of the expectations we have for them.
A new preschool in Lithuania introduced parents to the concept of contextual education through . At the same time, new teachers were being trained and IKEA furniture was being assembled there. A prospective family was walking about on a canvas on a scorching July day.
They inquired as to who the girl with cold boots and a plastic princess dress was. One of the teachers had to admit that she was that irresponsible mother, because people in Lithuania have standards for how children should appear and behave, and the youngster was not meeting any of them. Good parenting requires patience and acceptance from the parents.
Accepting your child for who he or she is takes courage.
To let go and be at peace. However, there will be times when you are not proud of yourself.
Jaimie’s seven-year-old daughter enjoys polishing her nails. She had them polished over spring break and forgot to take it off when Jaimie asked her to. Jaimie, being the busy mother that she is, did not follow through, and there she was, at the conclusion of the break, with a nail polish on her youngest. Because they were on their way through the door and Jaimie didn’t have time to remove it, she became irritated. She expressed her disappointment as well as her anger. On the way to school, Jaimie humiliated her child. Instead of being the happy child she was, Jaimie’s daughter sat in the rear of the car, quiet.
Jaimie’s daughter was not looking forward to returning to school. She greeted her teacher and her fingers turned inwards. She was quite self-conscious about her fingernails now.
What was Jaimie’s motivation for doing this?
This was not done because of her, she did it because she was worried about what other people would think of her.
Love your children for who they are, not for what you want them to be. Parenting will define the future of your child and your family.